第4章 下一站幸福 (3)

The joy in living comes from having fine emotions， trusting them， giving them the freedom of a bird in the open. Joy in living can never be assumed as a pose， or put on from the outside as a mask. People who have this joy don’t need to talk about it； they radiate it. They just live out their joy and let it splash its sunlight and glow into other lives as naturally as bird sings.

We can never get it by working for it directly. It comes， like happiness， to those who are aiming at something higher. It is a byproduct of great， simple living. The joy of living comes from what we put into living， not from what we seek to get from it.

生活的乐趣源自美好的情感，以及对这些情感的信任，并且让它们如鸟儿般自由地在天空翱翔。生活中的快乐永远不能伪装得来。拥有快乐生活的人无须言语，就会用快乐感染他人。他们将快乐释放，让快乐发光，用快乐的光芒照耀他人的生活，就像鸟儿奉献自己的歌声一样。

幸福不是仅仅靠努力工作就能得到的。它如同幸福一样，只有生活里有更高追求的人，才会享受到快乐。它是伟大而简单的生活的附属品，生活的乐趣源自我们对其的投入，而非索取。

记忆填空

1. Joy in living can _______ be assumed as a pose， or put on from the outside as a _______ . People who have this joy don’t_______ to talk about it； they radiate it. They just live out their joy and let it splash its sunlight and glow into other lives as naturally_______ bird sings.

2. We can never_______it by working for it directly. It_______， like happiness， to those who are aiming at something_______. It is a byproduct of great， simple living. The joy of living comes from what we put into living， not from what we _______to get from it.

佳句翻译

1. 生活的乐趣源自美好的情感。

2. 生活中的快乐永远不能伪装得来。

3. 生活的乐趣源自我们对其的投入，而非索取。

短语应用

1. ...giving them the freedom of a bird in the open.

in the open：在野外；在露天

2. The joy of living comes from what we put into living...

put into：使进入；把……放进

让你幸福的好建议

Good Advice to Help You Live Happily

佚名 / Anonymous

1. It is Okay to Make Mistakes

Making mistakes is something we all do， and I am still a fine and worthwhile person when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I make a mistake. I am trying， and if I make a mistake， I am going to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for others to make mistakes， too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that others make.

2. Everybody Doesn’t Have to Love Me

Not everybody has to love me or even like me. I don’t necessarily like everybody， I know， so why should everybody else like me？ I enjoy being liked and being loved， but if somebody doesn’t like me， I will still be okay and still feel like I am an okay person. I cannot make somebody like me， anymore than somebody can get me to like them. I don’t need approval all the time. If someone does not approve of me， I will still be okay.

3. I Don’t Have to Control Things

I will survive if things are different than what I want them to be. I can accept things the way they are， accept people the way they are， and accept myself the way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can’t change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don’t like it， I can live with it.

4. I am Responsible for My Day

I am responsible for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything. If I have a rotten day， I am the one who allows it to be that way. If I have a great day， I am the one who deserves credit for being positive. It is not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge of my life.

5. I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong

I don’t need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just fine， and when they don’t， I can handle it. I don’t have to waste my energy worrying. The sky won’t fall in； things will be okay.

6. I am Capable

I don’t need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don’t have to depend on somebody else to take care of me.

7. I Can be Flexible

There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has had good ideas that will work. There is no one and only “best” way. Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others， but everyone’s ideas are worthwhile， and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.

1. 犯错没关系

每个人都会犯错。即使犯了错，我仍然是一个优秀的、有价值的人。犯错后，没必要惴惴不安。我一直都在努力，即使犯了错，我还是会继续努力。我能正确对待犯错，别人犯错也没什么大不了的。既然我会接受自己犯错，也就会接受别人犯错。

2. 并非人人都得爱我

不是每个人都得爱我，或者喜欢我。我不必喜欢我认识的每一个人，那么为什么其他人都应该喜欢我呢？我很乐意被人喜欢或被人爱，但如果有人不喜欢我，我仍然会活得很好，也觉得自己很好。我不能强求别人喜欢我，正如别人也不能强求我喜欢他。我不需要总是被认可。即使别人不认同我，我仍然会活得很好。

3. 不必事必躬亲

即使事情与我所想象的不同，我也照样生活。我会接受事情本来的样子，接受人们本来的面貌，也接受真实的自我。如果我不能让事情成为我想要的样子，也没必要不安。我没有理由要喜欢一切事物。即使我不喜欢它，仍能与之共存。

4. 对自己的每一天负责

我对自己的感觉和自己所做的事负责。没有人能影响我的感觉。如果我浑浑噩噩地过了一天，是我对自己的放任；如果我某天过得很充实，是自己态度积极，应受嘉奖。其他人没有义务做出改变来让我感觉更好。我才是掌握自己命运的人。

5. 出了问题我能处理

我不需要时刻担心事情会出错。事情一般都会顺利进行，即使不能顺利进行时，我也能处理好。我没必要浪费精力去焦虑。天不会塌下来，一切都会好的。

6. 我能行

我不需要别人来帮忙处理问题，我能行。我能照顾好自己，能自己作出决定，能独立思考。我没有必要依靠别人来照顾我。

7. 我能随机应变

一件事的做法不止一种，不止一个人有行得通的好办法，也没有哪一种方法是万全之策。每个人都有好主意。有些可能对我更有帮助，每个人的观点都有可取之处，每个人都可以想出一些好办法。

记忆填空

1. Not everybody has to love me or_______like me. I don’t necessarily like_______， I know， so_______should everybody else like me？ I enjoy being liked and being loved， but_______somebody doesn’t like me， I will still be okay and still feel like I am an okay person.

2. I will survive if things are different than_______ I want them to be. I can accept things the_______they are， accept people the way they are， and myself the way I am.

3. I can_______decisions for myself. I can think_______myself. I don’t have to depend_______somebody else to take care of me.

佳句翻译

1. 我一直都在努力，即使犯了错，我还是会继续努力。

2. 我不能强求别人喜欢我，正如别人也不能强求我喜欢他。

3. 没有人能影响我的感觉。

短语应用

1. There is no reason for me to get upset when I make a mistake.

get upset：感到不安；沮丧

2. There is no reason to get upset if I can’t change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be.

ought to：应当；应该

用心练习，让自己“慢”下来

The Practice of Slowing Down

菲尔？鲍尔斯 / Phil Powers