第8章 每个人都是天生的赢家

Born to Win

Each human being is born as something new， something that never existed before. Each is born with the capacity to win at life. Each person has a unique way of seeing， hearing， touching， tasting and thinking. Each has his or her own unique potentials—capabilities and limitations. Each can be a significant， thinking， aware， and creative being—a productive person， a winner.

Winners do not dedicate their lives to a concept of what they imagine they should be； rather， they are themselves and as such do not use their energy putting on a performance， maintaining pretence， and manipulating others， they are aware that there is a difference between being loving and acting loving， between being stupid and acting stupid， between being knowledgeable and acting knowledgeable. Winners do not need to hide behind a mask.

每个人生来就是新的事物，就是前所未有的事物。每个人天生就具备在生活中获取成功的能力。每个人都有自己观察、听闻、触摸、品尝和思考的独特方法。每个人的潜力也各不相同——各有所长也各有局限。每个人都有可能成为一个杰出的、好思考的、头脑清醒而富有想象力的人——成为一个有创造性的人，一个赢家。

赢家不会沉溺于概念之中，想象他们“理当”成为何种人；相反，他们按天性行事，因此，他们不会费神地装模作样，故作姿态，玩弄他人。他们很清楚爱与装爱、傻与装傻、真才实学与故作高深之间的区别。赢家无需用面具掩饰自己。

Winners are not afraid to do their own thinking and to use their own knowledge. They can separate facts from opinion and don't pretend to have all the answers. They listen to others； evaluate what they say， but come to their own conclusions. Although winners can admire and respect other people， they are not totally defined， demolished， bound， or awed by them.

Winners do not play "helpless"， nor do they play the blaming game. Instead， they assume responsibility for their own lives. They do not give others a false authority over them. Winners are their own bosses and know it.

A winner's timing is right. Winners respond appropriately to the situation. Their responses are related to the message sent and preserve the significance， worth， wellbeing， and dignity of the people involved. Winners know that for everything there is a reason and for every activity a time.

Although winners can freely enjoy themselves， they can also postpone enjoyment； can discipline themselves in the present to enhance their enjoyment in the future. Winners are not afraid to go after what they want， but they do so in appropriate ways. Winners do not get their security by controlling others. They do not set themselves up to lose.

赢家不惧怕独立思考和运用自身的知识。他们既懂得区分事实与观点，又不会装作通晓一切。他们倾听他人意见，品评他人言论，但要得出自己的结论。赢家懂得尊重和敬佩他人，但却不会完全为他人所限制、摧垮、束缚或吓倒。

赢家不会装作可怜，博取同情；也不会怨天尤人，开脱自己。相反，他们承担生活中自己应尽的责任。他们不会给别人名不副实的权威，让别人凌驾于他们之上。赢家主宰着自己的命运，对此他们一清二楚。

赢家善于审时度势，对形势做出恰当的反应，根据所得信息，维护有关人员的地位、价值、利益和尊严。赢家明白，每一样事都事出有因，每一个行动都要恰逢时机。

尽管赢家可以自由地享受生活，但也能够推迟享乐。他们可以在现阶段约束自己，为了将来享受更大的快乐。赢家不惧怕追求心中所想，也不会行为出格。赢家不会通过控制他人来获取自身的安全。他们不会让自己踏上失败之路。